I have three basic types of stroke sessions…

The short session: These are five to ten minutes. Basically these fulfill a need for release and little else. The long session: Have the porn ready because these last over an hour, often go on to two, and have hit six. Keep in mind I do sometimes have more than one orgasm. The party: Just … Read moreI have three basic types of stroke sessions…

a lustful agreement

This is all very intellectual and brain driven and very little attention given to the libido with its own selection of responses to various stimuli. I have found in my lifetime that the more I profess confusion and fight being categorised the less pleasure I get from my sex. If both your brain and your penis come to … Read morea lustful agreement

SEXUALLY REPRESSED ?

You would think today’s society is one of the least sexually repressed you could encounter, but is it? Dillon Toyne explains

With sex openly discussed on TV, in magazines and on the internet have we finally thrown off the crushing of our Victorian ancestors? Or is the reality that we are just fooling ourselves, believing we are now sexually liberated, when in truth we are still as hung up about sexual pleasures as our great grandparents? Ask yourself, when it comes to orgasmic pleasures, are you getting what you really want, or are you just having the kind of sex you believe you are supposed to have? Sexual repression is about the devaluing of sexuality, beginning in infancy and often expressed by threats to the inquisitive child, “if I catch you doing that again, I’ll cut it off,” or “you’ll go blind if you do that.” It can be exerted more subtly by maintaining the mystery around sexual activities with the use of allusive language and lies, “the stork brought you,” or the creation of taboos through those much-loved middle-class provisos of modesty and decency. Sexual repression can also take the form of a more general devaluing of the body, regarding the sexual organs as dirty, impure, or coarse, as opposed to the spirit, or “soul” which is considered to be of much higher value. Sexuality is thus lowered to the satisfaction of basic instincts or crude material needs. It is essentially within the middle-class patriarchal family unit that the process of sexual repression and the learning of obedience to authority are reproduced. Our society places the utmost value on control, on hiding what you really feel.

Primitive cultures are ridiculed, while pride is taken in our Western civility and our ability to suppress natural instincts and impulses. This is especially apparent in northern European countries, such as Britain, where the influence of protestant thinking has had a direct affect upon attitudes towards sexuality. Sexual repression is regarded as one of the essential causes of neuroses arising from traumas and the repression of sexual emotions, feelings, and expressions experienced during childhood. According to the 20th century German psychoanalyst and pupil of Freud, Wilhelm Reich, the body produces a sexual energy, which circulates along the longitudinal axis of the body, from the brain towards the genitals. The function of the orgasm is to dissipate this energy. The most important feature of an orgasm is the experience of pleasure; with pleasure, energy is able to reach the genitals and so can be fully discharged. Within sexually repressed individuals, obstacles are formed at various points along the brain-genital axis, so preventing the effective circulation and dissipation of sexual energy. These obstacles, formed gradually during the development of the individual, are called “character armours”; they appear both on a physical level, as muscular rigidities, and on a psychological level, as neurotic characteristics, such as various phobias, stammering, hysteria, timidity, instability and depression.

These neurotic characteristics are the basis of irrational beliefs, of feelings of frustration, violence, fear, and rejection by others. Individuals unable to dissipate their sexual energy in a fully carried out orgasm, are known as “orgasmic impotents.” For these individuals sexual energy is released via alternative outlets, in particular mysticism, irrational behaviours, the development of non-respectful sexual behaviours, of fascistic behaviours (the need to yield to another), sadistic or sexual perversions. Inhibited sexual desire or response, arising from sexual repression, refers to the lack of desire for erotic sexual contact. In most cases when there is a lack of sexual desire, the underlying causes are psychological in nature. Avoidance of sexual contact because of fears of rejection, failure, criticism, feelings of embarrassment or awkwardness, body image concerns, performance anxiety, anger towards a partner, lack of attraction towards a partner, all play a part in reducing or eliminating the sexual response. Most men are too uncomfortable to talk to their partner or anyone else about these issues, preferring to simply avoid sex or attribute their lack of sexual appetite to stress, worries, etc. Some of these men have a very active fantasy life and prefer the solitude of masturbation to the intimacy of sexual relations. Peter, a single gay man in his 40s, accepted he had a problem with anal sex after visiting a sexual therapist. He was then able to connect his fear of anal sex to both his childhood and the experience of losing his virginity.

“I was brought up to accept the only thing you did with your bottom was sit on it and shit out of it. The first and only time I was ever fucked was horrendous; it hurt so much I thought I’d never walk again and on top of that, the other guy said I should have douched. The embarrassment, coupled with the pain stopped me from having sexually fulfilling relationships as an adult. My fear of anal sex led to arguments with lovers and once or twice I admit I became hysterical and violent towards my boyfriends.” Terry and Chris felt their sexual relationship was becoming boring so they decided, as gay couples often do, to have an open relationship. Hoping this might bring the excitement back into their sexual relationship, they tried threesomes, groups and one on ones. Nevertheless, all this pleasure seeking only left the two of them feeling sexually unfulfilled, “Yeah, it was fun, but it lacked something, and we both ended up feeling guilty about what were doing.” After visiting a sex therapist, they began exploring other ways to enjoy sex together. By doing so, they were once again able to achieve a fully satisfying sexual relationship with each other. So what are the cardinal rules for freeing yourself from sexual repression and achieving a good sex life? Firstly, you need to respect your partner and adopt a healthy attitude towards sex. You need to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner, talk about what you like and do not like to do and most importantly be honest.

Experimentation is essential; trying something different can open up a completely new way of enjoying sex, having fun, and learning about yourself and your partner. There are many ways to spice up your sex life, make a list of sexual preferences, be flexible, and experiment. Arrange intimate times with your partner, or “sex dates”. Think about activities, which can lead to sex, use your imagination, and learn to focus on other aspects of intimacy using all five senses. Indulge in sex-play with one another, which will lead to orgasm, but without intercourse. Be generous; gently ask for directions if you are not getting the kind of response you expect and take notice of your own reactions. Get the big picture; understand that what happens in your relationship is generally reflected in the bedroom. If your relationship is in trouble, difficulties will frequently show up in the bedroom. Finally, if you cannot make these suggestions work then seek out a sexual therapist like Mr Cox. Such experienced sexual facilitators can help you work through your issues and allow you to begin enjoying a satisfying sex life, free from sexual repression. TOYNE Dillon

86.33% of men are growers rather than showers

In one study of 80 dicks n dudes, researchers found that the size of a man’s soft cock and its full erect length increases from flaccid to erect lengths ranged from less than a quarter-inch to 3.5 inches longer. Whatever the clinical significance of these data may be, the locker-room significance is considerable.

You can’t assume that the bloke with a big, flabby cock gets much bigger with an erection And the blokes whose penis cocks looks tiny might get a surprisingly big erection. An analysis of more than a thousand measurements taken by sex researcher Alfred Kinsey shows that shorter flaccid penises tend to gain about twice as much length as longer flaccid penises. A penis that doesn’t gain much length with an erection has become known as a “show-er,” and a penis that gains a lot is said to be a “grower.” These are not medical terms, and there aren’t scientifically established thresholds for what’s a show-er or a grower. Kinsey’s data suggest that most penises aren’t extreme show-ers or growers. About 12% of penises gained one-third or less of their total length with an erection, and about 7% doubled in length when erect.

What Is A ‘Pornosexual?’

What Is A ‘Pornosexual?’ The New Sexual Orientation For Those Who Watch Porn, And Shun Real Sex. According to Medical Daily, the new term describes a person whose ‘sexual orientation is linked solely to porn’. The site said the new term differs ‘from other sexual orientations because it’s a learned behaviour that is void of … Read moreWhat Is A ‘Pornosexual?’

How do you suck a penis

How to suck a penis by Enjoy yourself. The first step is to enjoy it! You take him by your hand and stroke him softly, watching his eyes and his expression. Notice where you are touching when his eyes light up, or he catches his breath. Then start with your tongue, licking him all over. … Read moreHow do you suck a penis

Tantric Brojobs

When you catch god’s cock

in your hand and, shaping

your lips to an ‘O’, lays them lightly to its tip,

moving your head in tiny circles,

this first step is called “Nimitta” (Touching).

great thick fat cocks outdoors 2Next, grasping god’s head in your hand,

you clamp your lips tightly about the shaft,

first on one side then the other,

taking great care that your teeth don’t hurt god:

this is “Parshvatoddashta” (Fluttering at the Sides).

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Now you takes the head of god

gently between your lips,

by turns pressing, kissing it tenderly

and pulling at its soft skin:

this is “Bahiha-samdansha” (the Outer Pincers).

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If next you allow god to slide

completely into your mouth

and press god firmly between your lips,

holding a moment before pulling away,

it is “Antaha-samdansha” (the Inner Pincers).

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When, taking god in your hand

and making your lips very round,

you press fierce kisses along its whole length,

sucking as you would at your lower lip,

it is called “Chumbitaka” (Kissing).

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flick all over god

and then, pointing it, strikes repeatedly

at the sensitive glans-tip,

it becomes “Parimrshtaka” (Striking at the Tip).

And now, fired by passion, you takes

God deep into your mouth,

pulling upon it and sucking as vigorously

as though you were sucking clean a mango-stone:

this is “Amrachushita” (Sucking a Mango).

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is imminent you swallow up the whole penis,

sucking and working upon it

with lips and tongue until you spend:

this is “Sangara” (Swallowed Whole)

If the pair of you lie side by side,

facing opposite ways,

and kiss each other’s secret parts

using the fifteen techniques described above,

it is known as “Kakila” (The Crow),

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Sexual Healers

Like if you see someone who is great with math, he absolutely loves it, he thinks about it all day long constantly trying to figure things out mathematically… you don’t call him an addict, you suggest he might enjoy a career in doing something with Math. Logical, right? Sex IS the same. Todd Perkins explains.

It’s just not something that your typical High School guidance counselor would recommend to you. 🙂 There are a group of people on this planet who have the role of assisting people in coming to acceptance and balance with their sexuality. If you haven’t noticed, this world is a pretty sexually unbalanced place at the moment. There is so much unhealthy guilt, shame and silence around sexuality that people are constantly being haunted by their own sexual desires. That natural aspect of themselves that is seeking _expression, is being stifled and repressed out of guilt and shame. Sexual Healers are people who have an intense focus in the area of sexuality and also have worked (and continue to work) to clear themselves of their own sexual guilt.

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They have reached a space of sexual freedom in their own lives and feel compelled to share that with others. They want nothing more than for others to find that beauty that comes from touching the space of sexual freedom. Sexual Healers are a unique breed! They some how see beyond all the societal bullshit, and see sexuality for what it is, a healthy _expression of pleasure and connection. They some how intuitively know how to assist other people in accepting their own sexuality. And they often have an element of what society calls “exhibitionism.”

They like to share their body and sexuality with other people. Sexual Healers today are on the vanguard of a movement in Sexual Healing on this planet. They are the people who feel called to change the way society feels and thinks about sexuality. For some people they do this one person at a time, with intimate contact or therapy. For other people they feel compelled to affect many people at one time. Through educational materials or sexual videos. They all have the same objective, sexual freedom. If you have taken on the mental label of being “addicted to sex”… drop it. Your seeming “addiction” is really a higher part of you that is actively seeking after personal and spiritual growth. You are here to use sexuality is a tool to heal yourself, and then assist other people. That is the path of a sexual healer. So how does that look in your life? Each person has a different draw to express themselves. Only you know what is “your thing.”

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How do you find it? Just ask yourself, “What is the coolest thing you could possibly think of doing?” That’s it! The next step, is to get up the courage to actually become a professional healer. How do you do it. You just start. Go after what your sexual desires are calling you to do. Your sexual desires are in fact there to guide you! Welcome to a whole new wonderful life! -Todd Perkins

‘not exclusively heterosexual’

According to A British Government Survey 50% of Young Brits ‘not exclusively heterosexual

Half of young Brits say they are ‘not exclusively heterosexual’ with a quarter of all UK adults saying they are gay or bisexual. YouGov poll asked people to plot themselves on a scale of sexuality. The poll ranged from completely heterosexual to 100 per cent gay. Survey authors said people now see their sexuality as ‘less fixed in stone’. The results revealed that 23 per cent of British adults choose something other than 100 per cent heterosexual – with the figure rising to 49 per cent among 18-24 year olds. More men claim to have had a gay experience with a fifth reporting having had a sexual experience with another man.

Just 14 per cent of females report having had a sexual experience with another woman. And only four per cent of adults classed themselves as completely gay, with around a fifth (19 per cent) putting themselves somewhere in between.

Participants were asked to put themselves in one of seven levels of sexuality, ranging from 0 (100 per cent heterosexual) to 6 (100 per cent homosexual) based on Kinsey scale of sexual orientationWill Dahlgreen, a data journalist at YouGov, said: ‘Clearly, these figures are not measures of active bisexuality – overall, 89 per cent of the population describes themselves as heterosexual – but putting yourself at level one allows for the possibility of homosexual feelings and experiences.’ The survey authors said that with each generation, people see their sexuality as ‘less fixed in stone’.

For example, for those aged 60 and over – who will have been young teens when homosexuality was legalised, in 1967 – 89 per cent said they were completely straight or completely homosexual.

According to the survey, a quarter of those aged between 18 and 39 said reported having had a homosexual experience. This compares to only nine per cent of those aged 60 and over. Meanwhile, more men claim to have had a gay experience with a fifth reporting having had a sexual experience with another man.Just 14 per cent of females report having had a sexual experience with another woman.

certain sexual desires

Hello from reading your site it seems clear to me that sex has more to do with energy and desire than sexual orientation.

From school we are taught not to much about sex but that it is for procreation. The truth is sex is so much more it is clearly multi-dimensional. Society makes it difficult to realise certain sexual desires and expand our expirences. I myself was intriged by the prostate gland and explored i dont have a direct attraction to men but I enjoy anal sex. Strap-ons were first then Transexuals some are as beautiful as women. then i tried anal with a man it was intense and also enjoyed getting sucked. I am looking forward to one day coming to you Seb because of the way you talk about prostate massage. Thanks for all your help and keep the site going its good for all th bi curious confused men out there. Shaun

defined sexuality

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You are not born with a defined sexuality. It comes to you, unconsciously during your childhood. Your pointed in a a certain direction, but it does not define it. It leaves you with choices which you may, or may not choose to acknowledge.

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Events from the past can be stored in the very prostate of your mind and may surface at any time. You are an adult, you have free will. What you do with these choices is up to you. Some choose homosexual relationships as they find this leads to an internal balance, an inner calmness. There may have been an absence of male love during your childhood so as an adult you can balance that. Satisfying yourself sexually is the key that opens the door to your heart’s desire. While you may be attracted to sex with someone of the opposite gender, as what is opposite can be balancing. But, even a slight change in your sexual energy can lead to a different desire. If this pushes you towards a different experience that fulfills your particular needs at that time, that is the very essence of you.

30 QUOTES about sexual pleasures

Sex is more exciting on the screen and between the pages than between the sheets. Andy Warhol Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we … Read more30 QUOTES about sexual pleasures

sucking another cock

I have been happily married for many years now. I need some advice and am not sure who to talk to. Even though hetero in my sexual orientation, sometimes..I fantasize about having my cock sucked..and also trying to suck a cock. Is this normal?…How do you suggest I explore sucking another man’s cock..and at the same … Read moresucking another cock

New Sexuality

 Hi Seb, I always enjoy reading your thoughts, ideas and wisdom. I think you should write a book called something like the “New Sexuality” which every man should read! When I first came across your website I had pomised myself a session with you but alas for me you are now retired I believe. Well, … Read moreNew Sexuality

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