a gathering of lovers

This is a gathering of lovers. In this gathering there is no high, no low, no smart, no ignorant, no special assembly, no grand discourse, no proper schooling required.

There is no master, no disciple. This gathering is more like a drunken party, full of tricksters, fools, mad men and mad women. This is a gathering of lovers. — Rumi

The Naked Guitarist is wanker of the Month August 2018

Swinging in the Rain

Self-administrated touch integrates, soothes or comforts, and gives us a psychologically fundamental sense of worthiness and competence – which is commonly called “self-esteem.” It is the antidote to shame.

The “skin envelope” defines where, and how, we are in our sensual and existential foundation – the capacity to engage in active self-stimulation of our own skin envelope is thus essential to the formation of a healthy and happy sense of “self” in at least five ways. First, self-stimulation “in-forms” or integrates our child. It informs us where the sensual space of our “self” has it’ margins, that sensual boundary where – so to speak – “self” appears to end and the rest of the “world” appears to begin. Thus, returning to the process of self-stimulation, and knowing one has the intentional ability to choose such a return, centers our “self” in a profoundly healthy sense.

Second, pleasurable self-touching soothes or comforts us when we are distraught, by alleviating our fearful anxieties, and indeed by helping us – at least to some degree – to achieve a letting-go of our judgmental mind, our fear-based patterns of thinking. The gentle enjoyment of touching grounds experience in the present moment, and quietens the chattering mind. Third, these abilities, which serve reliably to ground ourselves in our bodies and to center ourselves in pleasure, are the wellspring of our sense of being loveable.

By this, I mean that we come to feel basically worthy and competent in our sense of being-in-the-world. As this occurs, we become able to experience more clearly the extent to which our world is trustworthy.

When these three contributions of self-touching are facilitated, self-pleasuring constitutes and catalyzes our most basic human capacities of feeling lovable, of being able to love and of finding spiritual bliss. However, when these three contributions of self-touching to physical and emotional development are interrupted, egotism substitutes for what I am calling a “healthy sense of self.”

Disturbances in these developments of self-touching, the progression from being touched to touching ourselves, lead to profound unhappiness throughout our lives – by which I refer to the extent that we all wrestle with psychotic, neurotic, and addictive processes.

Psychoanalysis shows us how everyone suffers, to some degree, from these constituents to our personality. We also know that the psychotic, neurotic, and addictive components to our mental functioning.

Brotherhug of Pleasure

Commenting on the research, London based Cock Philosopher, Mr Cox, said, “these young men are amazing pioneers, men who are such an example for their father’s generation, their grandfathers generation, and indeed, for each and everyone of their forefathers.  These young warriors have the bollocks to be be honest about something that gets to the … Read moreBrotherhug of Pleasure

fortunate or lucky ?

You’ve come to know the fortunate and the inauspicious stars, but you don’t know whether you yourself are fortunate or lucky. You’ve come to know the fortunate and the inauspicious stars, but you don’t know whether you yourself are fortunate or lucky. Rumi TOUCHING ANOTHER MAN’S COCK MAKES YOU MORE INTELLIGENT


In male gay culture, a bear is often a larger, hairier man who projects an image of rugged masculinity. Bears are one of many LGBT communities with events, codes, and a culture-specific identity. However, in San Francisco in the 70s any hairy man of whatever shape was referred to as a ‘bear’ until the term … Read moreAdorabear

Tennessee Waltz

The foothills of the Smokies are especially lovely during the spring and summer; although the same humidity that creates the mysterious mantle draping the mountains also feels like being underwater at times. The muggy heat is more than oppressive, but that’s August in East Tennessee, so what can you do? I was especially thankful that … Read moreTennessee Waltz

prostate stimulation

On the Pantra Prostate Massager, the piece of plastic which is designed to rub against the perineum ends in a small ball, the effect is increased pleasurable feelings around the perineum when you contract your arsehole. The other result of tightening your arsehole is you force the Pantra deep up into your arse, where it … Read moreprostate stimulation