10,000 Hours of Orgasmic Yoga. Masturbation Practice, Practice, Practice with Joe Miron Sex like anything else can be practiced and mastered. Joe Miron knows the benefits of the practice. He has more than 10,000 hours of practice on the French horn. Joe brings the discipline and daily practice of a professional musician to his sexual … Read more10,000 Hours of Orgasmic Yoga Masturbation
I was a new recruit in the US Air Force, just out of basic training and on my 9-month training assignment in an air base just outside of Denver, Colorado. Not having the opportunity to sexually relieve myself (or overly concerned about what would happen if discovered), parts of my body and spirit, for that … Read moreelectrified with sexual energy
So you feel comfortable with your sexuality, you’re certain of who and what, turns you on. You might be happy being described as hetero, homo, bi, or trans sexual, there again you might prefer the often vague, but equally satisfactory, “I’m just me”. However for those of you seeking a more specific name for your … Read morepsycho sexualise
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You would think today’s society is one of the least sexually repressed you could encounter, but is it? Dillon Toyne explains
With sex openly discussed on TV, in magazines and on the internet have we finally thrown off the crushing of our Victorian ancestors? Or is the reality that we are just fooling ourselves, believing we are now sexually liberated, when in truth we are still as hung up about sexual pleasures as our great grandparents? Ask yourself, when it comes to orgasmic pleasures, are you getting what you really want, or are you just having the kind of sex you believe you are supposed to have? Sexual repression is about the devaluing of sexuality, beginning in infancy and often expressed by threats to the inquisitive child, “if I catch you doing that again, I’ll cut it off,” or “you’ll go blind if you do that.” It can be exerted more subtly by maintaining the mystery around sexual activities with the use of allusive language and lies, “the stork brought you,” or the creation of taboos through those much-loved middle-class provisos of modesty and decency. Sexual repression can also take the form of a more general devaluing of the body, regarding the sexual organs as dirty, impure, or coarse, as opposed to the spirit, or “soul” which is considered to be of much higher value. Sexuality is thus lowered to the satisfaction of basic instincts or crude material needs. It is essentially within the middle-class patriarchal family unit that the process of sexual repression and the learning of obedience to authority are reproduced. Our society places the utmost value on control, on hiding what you really feel.
Primitive cultures are ridiculed, while pride is taken in our Western civility and our ability to suppress natural instincts and impulses. This is especially apparent in northern European countries, such as Britain, where the influence of protestant thinking has had a direct affect upon attitudes towards sexuality. Sexual repression is regarded as one of the essential causes of neuroses arising from traumas and the repression of sexual emotions, feelings, and expressions experienced during childhood. According to the 20th century German psychoanalyst and pupil of Freud, Wilhelm Reich, the body produces a sexual energy, which circulates along the longitudinal axis of the body, from the brain towards the genitals. The function of the orgasm is to dissipate this energy. The most important feature of an orgasm is the experience of pleasure; with pleasure, energy is able to reach the genitals and so can be fully discharged. Within sexually repressed individuals, obstacles are formed at various points along the brain-genital axis, so preventing the effective circulation and dissipation of sexual energy. These obstacles, formed gradually during the development of the individual, are called “character armours”; they appear both on a physical level, as muscular rigidities, and on a psychological level, as neurotic characteristics, such as various phobias, stammering, hysteria, timidity, instability and depression.
These neurotic characteristics are the basis of irrational beliefs, of feelings of frustration, violence, fear, and rejection by others. Individuals unable to dissipate their sexual energy in a fully carried out orgasm, are known as “orgasmic impotents.” For these individuals sexual energy is released via alternative outlets, in particular mysticism, irrational behaviours, the development of non-respectful sexual behaviours, of fascistic behaviours (the need to yield to another), sadistic or sexual perversions. Inhibited sexual desire or response, arising from sexual repression, refers to the lack of desire for erotic sexual contact. In most cases when there is a lack of sexual desire, the underlying causes are psychological in nature. Avoidance of sexual contact because of fears of rejection, failure, criticism, feelings of embarrassment or awkwardness, body image concerns, performance anxiety, anger towards a partner, lack of attraction towards a partner, all play a part in reducing or eliminating the sexual response. Most men are too uncomfortable to talk to their partner or anyone else about these issues, preferring to simply avoid sex or attribute their lack of sexual appetite to stress, worries, etc. Some of these men have a very active fantasy life and prefer the solitude of masturbation to the intimacy of sexual relations. Peter, a single gay man in his 40s, accepted he had a problem with anal sex after visiting a sexual therapist. He was then able to connect his fear of anal sex to both his childhood and the experience of losing his virginity.
“I was brought up to accept the only thing you did with your bottom was sit on it and shit out of it. The first and only time I was ever fucked was horrendous; it hurt so much I thought I’d never walk again and on top of that, the other guy said I should have douched. The embarrassment, coupled with the pain stopped me from having sexually fulfilling relationships as an adult. My fear of anal sex led to arguments with lovers and once or twice I admit I became hysterical and violent towards my boyfriends.” Terry and Chris felt their sexual relationship was becoming boring so they decided, as gay couples often do, to have an open relationship. Hoping this might bring the excitement back into their sexual relationship, they tried threesomes, groups and one on ones. Nevertheless, all this pleasure seeking only left the two of them feeling sexually unfulfilled, “Yeah, it was fun, but it lacked something, and we both ended up feeling guilty about what were doing.” After visiting a sex therapist, they began exploring other ways to enjoy sex together. By doing so, they were once again able to achieve a fully satisfying sexual relationship with each other. So what are the cardinal rules for freeing yourself from sexual repression and achieving a good sex life? Firstly, you need to respect your partner and adopt a healthy attitude towards sex. You need to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner, talk about what you like and do not like to do and most importantly be honest.
Experimentation is essential; trying something different can open up a completely new way of enjoying sex, having fun, and learning about yourself and your partner. There are many ways to spice up your sex life, make a list of sexual preferences, be flexible, and experiment. Arrange intimate times with your partner, or “sex dates”. Think about activities, which can lead to sex, use your imagination, and learn to focus on other aspects of intimacy using all five senses. Indulge in sex-play with one another, which will lead to orgasm, but without intercourse. Be generous; gently ask for directions if you are not getting the kind of response you expect and take notice of your own reactions. Get the big picture; understand that what happens in your relationship is generally reflected in the bedroom. If your relationship is in trouble, difficulties will frequently show up in the bedroom. Finally, if you cannot make these suggestions work then seek out a sexual therapist like Mr Cox. Such experienced sexual facilitators can help you work through your issues and allow you to begin enjoying a satisfying sex life, free from sexual repression. TOYNE Dillon
Sexological Bodyworker Neal Wecker teaches somatic sex education to adults. He helps his students learn erotic self regulation. This means he helps others to manage the flow of erotic energy within their bodies and within their relationships. Erotic self regulation involves controlling levels of excitement and levels of relaxation during sexual play, allowing individuals to … Read moreJourney To Orgasm
For many men the frenulum and the perineum are the most sensitive part of their body for sexual pleasure. Researchers asked 81 healthy men to rate the erotic sensitivity of different areas of their bodies, including certain parts of the penis, the scrotum, anus, nipples, and neck. The underside of the glans and underside of the shaft … Read morethe most sensitive part of the body for sexual pleasure
Dear Mr Cox, I’m writing with a question – but first let me just say that you have what I think is a very enlightened and enlightening website. Personally, I find the references to Sacred Sexuality and the emphasis on masculine adult male sexuality very refreshing. There truly IS a HEALTHY side to it, and I’m so glad to see someone out there who knows that. I cut my teeth on Aleister Crowley, by the way, too.
My question, sir – I saw a quote on your website that said something to the effect of ‘All psychological neuroses can be cured by constant and repeated sexual gratification.’ I’m wondering if you could tell me WHO that quote was from? So I might read some of his thoughts further? I’m an ‘ugly’ dude, with a 200 IQ, and yes, I’ve finally settled on being certifiably nuts and retiring from the world. Too many double standards, stigmas, etc. What is going on REALLY is NOT what they TELL you is going on, and so on. Life is a beauty contest, at the expense of some much deeper things. So anyways, I really think that quote is very true. Not ALL neuroses could be thusly cured, but healthier, realistic views on sex would sure HELP a lot. You know, for example – All the beautiful people running around breeding willy-nilly, but how many of them even KNOW what Sacred Sexuality even is? Or the obsession with beauty? No problem there, but when it turns into the hate of the ugly, then there’s a problem.
I could go on and on – this is the story of my life. But anyways, it would be so much appreciated if you might reply and tell me the name of the Psychoanylist who made the statement about sexual gratification as the cure-all? Bliss Out, RB
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I distinguish between sexual orientation, romantic orientation, and platonic orientation because many straight guys, for example, have gay sex on the side. They often say, “It’s only sex.” To me, they are heteroromantic straight in the romantic sense) and biSEXUAL (bi in the purely sexual sense). Many homoromantic guys (gay in the romantic sense) are also biSEXUAL (bi in the purely sexual sense). www.threecirclegraph.com/Bisexuality.pdf. Anthony
The Need for Two More Bisexual Categories and the Necessity of Adding a Romantic and Platonic- Orientation Graph Many queers remain uncomfortable with having straight, bi, and gay as the only three sexualities from which to choose self-labeling (excluding transgendered, of course). Just as many bisexuals claim relief upon discovering bisexual as a label, borderzone bis need terms that more accurately describe their feelings toward males and females. Postmodern readers are probably echoing the mantra that “labels don’t matter,” but sometimes categories are needed to make sense of feelings-just as up, down, right, and left continue to be used when these terms mean nothing in outer space. Words are powerful, and so is the absence of words.
Today, Kinsey 1s, 2s, 4,s and 5s are forced to identify as straight or gay because the term bisexual conjures up the 50/50 stereotype in most people’s minds. “I’m more gay than straight,” a Kinsey 5 male may say, eschewing bisexual as a label altogether because “it doesn’t exactly describe what I am.” The problem is that this forces him to ignore his opposite-sex attraction because he lacks a label with which to verbalize his feelings. Of course, studies on the effects of such repression are lacking, but I’ve developed a three-circle diagram that, if accepted by enough bisexuals, may come to symbolize bisexuality in the coming decades. The diagram is as follows: The largest circle on the left represents summer and heterosexuality; the medium-sized circle in the middle represents fall and bisexuality; and the smallest circle on the right represents winter and homosexuality. Inside the straight circle, there is a picture of summer-symbolic for the simultaneous privilege and oppression of heterosexuality; the bi circle has a picture of fall-symbolic of bisexuality as a transitional season, as bisexuality is sometimes a transition to or from homosexuality, yet permanent in that fall returns every year; and the gay circle has a picture of winter-symbolic of gayness as both snowy beautiful, yet very cold and alienating for many gays. The bi circle is larger than the gay circle and smaller than the straight circle because, I believe, more people will identify as bi in the future than as gay, yet most people will continue to identify as straight-perhaps 65% of the population, vs. 17% bi and 10% gay.muscles is worked during sex.
The straight and gay circles intermesh slightly into the bi circle, creating a gray area between the straight and bi circle and between the bi and gay circle. People falling inside these gray areas need names, as the lack of terms causes confusion for people trying to verbalize their sexuality beyond the simple straight/bi/gay trichotomy.Two terms could be used to describe these borderzone bisexuals (remember it’s a zone where the circles intermesh, not the Kinsey line). The terms are:
Heterosexual . Unisexual . Bisexual . Trisexual . Homosexual Heterosexual, . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and sexually attracted to the same sex 0/4 of the time in FREQUENCY Unisexual, . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and sexually attracted to the same sex ¼ of the time in FREQUENCY Bisexual, . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY Trisexual, . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), sexually attracted to the same sex ¾ of the time in FREQUENCY Homosexual, . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and sexually attracted to the same-sex 4/4 in FREQUENCY While the Kinsey continuum places one’s orientation on a horizontal line, the three circles allow people to place their orientation horizontally and vertically.
A 50/50 bisexual, for example, may be near the top of Zone 2, near the bottom, or near the center-depending on his/her mood on a given day. That is why high-quality photographs fill the three circles, as pictures have a thousand places that people can identify with (e.g., the top of a tree on one’s wedding day vs. the ground on a “blue” day). The three circles, in short, are three-dimensional vis-à-vis the two-dimensional Kinsey scale. Moreover, the circles include a hovering moon on the upper-right-hand side, a moon that should transgendered people so decide, can come to symbolize their sexuality. (My essay “Borderzone Bisexuals” goes more deeply into this.)
The adding of two labels doesn’t have to mean the dissecting of bisexuality as a political movement, for bisexual can continue to be an umbrella term for all bisexuals. The categories unisexual and trisexual, however, would presumably be employed by borderzoners on a more personal level.
The Need for a Sexual, Romantic, and Platonic Orientation Graph
In Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life (1998), Marjorie Garber wrote that nobody has significantly altered the Kinsey scale since 1948. As of today, laypeople and sexologists continue to talk about the sexual-orientation scale when referring not just to sex, but to love, romance, and friendship. In their rush away from categories, they have lumped varying and often contradictory facets of human relationships into one scale. This needs serious remedying if bisexuality-and human relationships-are to be understood three dimensionally.
For better or worse, males often divorce sex and romance. A straight-identified male, for example, may say, “I’m not gay! I just love cocks in my mouth.” What he means is that although he enjoys sex with males, he isn’t romantically attracted to them. The gays are the “poofs” and “fairies” because they are homoromantic, wanting more than just to “beat off their meat” or “fool around.” Straight men, of course, don’t describe themselves as heteroromantic (romantically interested in the opposite sex), but if society ever comes to terms with admitting everyone’s innate bisexuality, sexual politics will probably revolve around people’s romantic orientation. In short, I propose three, different circle graphs (all following the same zone principles outlined in Part I of this article).
1.Sexual-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s sexual attraction to a given sex)
Heterosexual . Unisexual . Bisexual . Trisexual . Homosexual
(The sexual-orientation graph is explained in Part I of this essay.)
2. Romantic-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s romantic attraction to a given sex)
Heteroromantic . Uniromantic . Biromantic . Triromantic . Homoromantic Heteroromantic . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and romantically interested in the same sex 0/4 in FREQUENCY Uniromantic . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and romantically interested in the same sex 1/4 in FREQUENCY Biromantic . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY Triromantic . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), and romantically interested in the same sex 3/4 in FREQUENCY Homoromantic . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and romantically interested in the same sex 4/4 in FREQUENCY (E.g. Presumably, most males today are bisexual and heteroromantic.)
3. Platonic-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s platonic attraction to a given sex)
Heteroplatonic . Uniplatonic . Biplatonic . Triplatonic .Homoplatonic Heteroplatonic . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and platonically interested in the same sex 0/4 in FREQUENCY. (This is something that most gay males, presumably, are guilty of, as their same-sex friendships often turn into sexual relationships Uniplatonic . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and platonically interested in the same sex 1/4 in FREQUENCY Biplatonic . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY transferred to the platonic orientation discussion Triplatonic . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), and platonically interested in the same sex 3/4 in FREQUENCY Homoplatonic . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and platonically interested in the same sex 4/4 in For those confused by the platonic orientation graph, it is the inverse of the sexual and romantic orientation graph. People who are gay in the sexual and romantic sense are straight in the platonic sense and people who are straight in the sexual and romantic arena are “gay” in the platonic sense-for it seems that gays “bond” platonically with the opposite sex, while straights bond platonically with the same sex (e.g., homosocial bonds). If one follows Billy Crystal’s line in When Harry Met Sally (1989), most straight men cannot remain pure friends with women because females’ sexual attractiveness tempts men to make sexual advances on them, destroying any chance of men and women being “just friends.” Men like Crystal’s character would, presumably, be homoplatonic (only capable of forming platonic relationships with males) and heteroromantic (romantically interested in the opposite sex). The possibilities for sexual identification are endless, and because of this, the sexual-orientation circle graph will most likely remain the focus of political organizing for many decades. In the far future, however, it is likely that researchers will have more concepts with which to describe the diversity of human relationships. With enough sophistication, the masses may start talking about sexual, romantic, and platonic orientations by the middle and latter part of the 21st century. Bisexuals and transgendered people, more than any other sexual minority, are the most likely candidates to adopt the three-circle graphs because they are not mired in the either/or paradigm of heterosexuals and homosexuals.
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Maybe I will ask a silly question can someone explain a little bit more how does the tantric male massage works? I am new to this one and would like to understand more of it 🙂 thanks
In Tantric Philosophy there is no such thing as a silly question. What i like about tantra, is it’s simplicity. You simply touch with an intention to make your partner feel amazing. The tantra massage is a prayer. A slow respectful full body sensual massage. In Tantric philosophy, all a man’s goodness comes from his lingam(penis).
So this sacred intimacy massage involves very relaxed breathing and slow awakening of the lingam to create a magickal energy that we circulate to certain sacred points(called chakras) in his body. Mr Cox
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